Verb
/ˈdædiɪŋ/
Daddying requires active involvement and a lifelong commitment to a child’s physical, emotional, social, intellectual, creative, and moral/spiritual well-being.
DOB: 26th July 2022
The bulk of this writeup is going to be in pidgin, you no go vex. Na so e come.
Beginning
After our wedding, my wife kept having baby fever. She was always sending me IG videos and talking about how cute a baby was, but I dey run. So finally in October(6 months after our wedding) after much discussion & prayer we agreed to start trying, thinking at least by December the baby suppose enter. Next thing, my wife started feeling a bit sick and decided to do a PT(Pregnancy Test) at home. Omo, this baby no calm down. Na that October gangan, e come. E shock me. 😂
Funny enough we go do blood PT later for one hospital like that, they said it was negative. I’m like shey una dey whine me ni. Something wey I don see for like 3 strips. We go somewhere else to do another test, which turns out positive and we register there for ANC(Antenatal Care).
1st Trimester
Anyways moving on, 1st trimester was something else. Because there was a lot of nausea, and a lot of vomiting, my wife could barely keep anything down. Also, I was doing most of the cooking, so she could not smell what I was cooking if not she won’t eat. She also said I can’t be using my body spray. No be small thing. There was one time she was vomiting so bad, that her throat was hurting, I think she even vomited blood. I kept trying to do what I can to help.
Then 8th Dec, I see my wife on the bathroom floor, vomiting and water pouring on her head. I have never been so scared, I immediately carried her to the hospital. They admitted her, gave her something to stop the vomiting, and IV fluids. After that, things got a bit easier.
2nd Trimester
Then the 2nd trimester my wife was able to eat more, thankfully. Being pregnant in the heat is crazy. Cos we dey on the fan and AC down. She was having a lot of waist and back pain though, so I was doing a lot of massages. We found out the sex of the baby and I was feeling the baby’s movements.
3rd Trimester
3rd trimester, my wife’s appetite increased but she wasn’t gaining more weight. Cos na baby dey chop am. I continued my duty of sorting food and making sure she was comfortable, cos na both of us get the baby. We switched hospitals to one that’s closer to us, to switch sef na wahala cos first hospital dey delay to give us the medical report.
We are in Week 39 and Gynae said if the baby doesn’t come out by Week 41, she will be induced. Omo. Wahalur
Naso we start with pineapples, dates, plenty jogging, yoga & bedroom workout 😉 make the baby come quick quick.
So when we went for week 40 checkup, and the Doctor decided to do a scan to check if there was still enough fluid in the womb, na so baba talk we have to schedule a c-section tomorrow cos the baby is big(like papa😭).
I confuse small, but I recompose. They didn’t let my wife even leave with me, they said they will prep her that night. So I went home to get our hospital bags and some food.
Labour day
By 7 am, they start prepping my wife for surgery. 8 am they begin, 8:09 am, the child is out. Every other thing was done before 9 am. Mother & Child are alright, We thank God.
And that’s I began my Daddying journey. From that 1st pregnancy test.
PS: I know I ended this story abruptly, una go collect am like that.
Daddying requires active involvement and a lifelong commitment to a child’s physical, emotional, social, intellectual, creative, and moral/spiritual well-being.
